{"id":176471850,"date":"2017-03-06T03:25:22","date_gmt":"2017-03-06T09:25:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/?p=176471850"},"modified":"2017-03-06T03:25:22","modified_gmt":"2017-03-06T09:25:22","slug":"pov-chimamanda-ngozi-adichie-can-people-please-stop-telling-me-feminism-is-hot","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/2017\/03\/06\/pov-chimamanda-ngozi-adichie-can-people-please-stop-telling-me-feminism-is-hot\/","title":{"rendered":"POV: Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: &#8216;Can people please stop telling me feminism is hot?&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_176471309\" style=\"width: 359px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><a href=\"http:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/02\/GUARDIAN.jpg\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-176471309\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-176471309\" src=\"http:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/02\/GUARDIAN.jpg\" alt=\"Saturday 4 March 2017\" width=\"349\" height=\"74\" srcset=\"https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/02\/GUARDIAN.jpg 349w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/02\/GUARDIAN-300x64.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 349px) 100vw, 349px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-176471309\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Saturday 4 March 2017<\/p><\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h1 class=\"content__headline\"><span style=\"font-size: 36pt;\">Chimamanda <\/span><\/h1>\n<h1 class=\"content__headline\"><span style=\"font-size: 36pt;\">Ngozi Adichie: <\/span><\/h1>\n<h1 class=\"content__headline\"><span style=\"font-size: 36pt;\">&#8216;Can people please stop<\/span><\/h1>\n<h1 class=\"content__headline\"><span style=\"font-size: 36pt;\"> telling me <\/span><\/h1>\n<h1 class=\"content__headline\"><span style=\"font-size: 36pt;\">feminism is hot?&#8217;<\/span><\/h1>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; color: #000000;\"><strong>The novelist has been accused of making<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; color: #000000;\"><strong> equality mainstream: isn\u2019t that the point? <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; color: #000000;\"><strong>Plus an extract from her new book<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_176471851\" style=\"width: 610px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><a href=\"http:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-01.jpg\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-176471851\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" wp-image-176471851\" src=\"http:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-01-1024x962.jpg\" alt=\" Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: \u2018There\u2019s a self-righteousness to the ultra-left that\u2019s hard for me to stomach.\u2019 Photograph: Stephen Voss for the Guardian\" width=\"600\" height=\"564\" srcset=\"https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-01-1024x962.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-01-300x282.jpg 300w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-01-920x865.jpg 920w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-01.jpg 1065w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-176471851\" class=\"wp-caption-text\"><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 10pt;\"><strong>Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: \u2018There\u2019s a self-righteousness to the ultra-left that\u2019s hard for me to stomach.\u2019 Photograph: Stephen Voss for the Guardian<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div class=\"content__meta-container js-content-meta js-football-meta u-cf\n\n     content__meta-container--twitter\n    \"><\/p>\n<p class=\"byline\" data-link-name=\"byline\" data-component=\"meta-byline\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>By\u00a0<a class=\"tone-colour\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/profile\/emmabrockes\" rel=\"author\" data-link-name=\"auto tag link\">Emma Brockes<\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"meta__twitter\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"content__article-body from-content-api js-article__body\" data-test-id=\"article-review-body\">\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/books\/chimamanda-ngozi-adichie\" data-link-name=\"in body link\">Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie<\/a>\u00a0was in Lagos last summer, teaching a writing workshop as part of an annual schedule that sees her time divided between Nigeria and the US. For much of the year, Adichie lives in a town 30 minutes west of Baltimore, where her Nigerian-American husband works as a medic and the 39-year-old writes in the quiet of a suburban home. When Adichie is in Nigeria, where her parents and extended family still live, she has a house in the vast city she regards with the complicated love and condescension of the part-time expat.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">It\u2019s an ambivalence with which many Nigerians regard her, too; last year, the workshop ended in a question-and-answer session, during which a young man rose to ask the famous novelist a question. \u201cI used to love you,\u201d she recalls him saying. \u201cI\u2019ve read all your books. But since you started this whole feminism thing, and since you started to talk about this gay thing, I\u2019m just not sure about you any more. How do you intend to keep the love of people like me?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Adichie and I are in a coffee shop near her home in the Baltimore suburbs. We have met before,\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/books\/2014\/mar\/21\/chimamanda-ngozi-adichie-interview\" data-link-name=\"in body link\">a few years ago<\/a>, when her third novel\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/bookshop.theguardian.com\/americanah.html\" data-link-name=\"in body link\">Americanah<\/a>\u00a0was published, a book that examines what it is to be a Nigerian woman living in the US, and that went on to win a National Book Critics\u2019 Circle award. A lot has happened since then.\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/bookshop.theguardian.com\/half-of-a-yellow-sun-2.html\" data-link-name=\"in body link\">Half Of A Yellow Sun<\/a>, Adichie\u2019s second and most famous novel, about the Biafran war,\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/film\/2014\/apr\/10\/half-of-a-yellow-sun-chimamanda-ngozi-adichie-film-review\" data-link-name=\"in body link\">has been made into a film<\/a>\u00a0starring Chiwetel Ejiofor and Thandie Newton. Her essay,\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/bookshop.theguardian.com\/we-should-all-be-feminists-chimamanda-ngozi-adichie.html\" data-link-name=\"in body link\">We Should All Be Feminists<\/a>, adapted from\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=hg3umXU_qWc\" data-link-name=\"in body link\">her 2013 TEDx talk<\/a>, has remained on the bestseller lists, particularly in Sweden, where in 2015 it was distributed to every 16-year-old high-school student in the land. The talk was sampled by Beyonc\u00e9 in her song\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/books\/2013\/dec\/13\/beyonce-samples-chimamanda-ngozi-adichie-feminism-talk\" data-link-name=\"in body link\">Flawless<\/a>. Adichie has\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"http:\/\/www.vogue.co.uk\/article\/chimamanda-ngozi-adichie-for-boots-no7\" data-link-name=\"in body link\">become the face of<\/a>\u00a0Boots No7 makeup. And she has had a baby, a daughter, now 15 months old.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Adichie is still somewhat in the blast zone, not entirely caught up on sleep, but has published a short book,\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/bookshop.theguardian.com\/dear-ijeawele-or-a-feminist-manifesto-in-fifteen-suggestion.html\" data-link-name=\"in body link\">Dear Ijeawele, Or A Feminist Manifesto In Fifteen Suggestions<\/a>, an extended version of a letter to a friend who, after having her own baby girl, asked Adichie\u2019s advice on how to raise her to be feminist. I have had twin girls myself since our last meeting, so I am curious about her approach, not least because one of my two-year-olds currently identifies as Bob the Builder and the other as Penelope Pitstop. I would like to equip them to be themselves, while resisting whatever projections might be foisted upon them. We show each other baby photos and smile. \u201cWelcome to the world of anxiety,\u201d Adichie says.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">The success of We Should All Be Feminists has made Adichie as prominent for her feminism as for her novels, to the extent that \u201cnow I get invited to every damned feminist thing in the whole world\u201d. She has always been an agony aunt of sorts, \u201cthe unpaid therapist for my family and friends\u201d, but having the feminist label attached has changed things, and not just among her intimates. \u201cI was opened to a certain level of hostility that I hadn\u2019t experienced before as a writer and public figure.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This is partly why she has written the new book, to reclaim the word feminism from its abusers and misusers, a category within which she would include certain other progressives, and to lay down in plain, elegant English her beliefs about child-raising.<\/span><\/p>\n<aside class=\"element element-pullquote element--supporting\">\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"pullquote-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>In Nigeria, you control children. My daughter is 15 months. So she tears a book? Whatever. She throws my shoes down. So?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/aside>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Dear Ijeawele is, in some ways, a very basic set of appeals; to be careful with language (never say \u201cbecause you are a girl\u201d), avoid gendered toys, encourage reading, don\u2019t treat marriage as an achievement, reject likability. \u201cHer job is not to make herself likable, her job is to be her full self,\u201d she writes in reference to her friend\u2019s daughter, a choice Adichie has come to elevate almost above any other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">That day in Lagos last summer, her friends were furious at the cheek of the young man\u2019s question, but she rather liked his bravery and honesty in asking it. She replied in the same spirit. \u201cKeep your love,\u201d Adichie said. \u201cBecause, sadly, while I love to be loved, I will not accept your love if it comes with these conditions.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Having a baby has made Adichie think differently about her own parents, particularly her mother. Grace Adichie, who had six children and worked her way up from being a university administrator to the registrar, taught her daughter to love fashion as well as books, and was a \u201cvery cool mum\u201d whom she idolised as a child. Nonetheless, and in the manner of most snotty young adults, young Chimamanda went through a phase of being \u201cvery superior\u201d to her mother. Now, the novelist looks at her daughter and gulps.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div id=\"dfp-ad--inline1\" class=\"js-ad-slot ad-slot ad-slot--inline ad-slot--inline1 u-h ad-slot--rendered\" data-link-name=\"ad slot inline1\" data-name=\"inline1\" data-mobile=\"1,1|2,2|300,250|fluid\" data-desktop=\"1,1|2,2|300,250|620,1|620,350|fluid\" data-google-query-id=\"CMqV7MSvwdICFVOLaQodV3gHLA\">\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Adichie recently came across her own kindergarten reports.<br \/>\n\u201cMy father keeps them all. You know what the teacher wrote?<br \/>\n\u2018She is brilliant, but she refuses to do any work when she\u2019s<br \/>\nannoyed.\u2019 I was five years old.\u201d She laughs. \u201cI couldn\u2019t believe<br \/>\nit. My husband couldn\u2019t believe it. I must have been an<br \/>\nannoying child.\u201d<\/span><\/div>\n<div class=\"ad-slot__label\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">It\u2019s not as if she comes from a family of radicals. \u201cMy parents are not like that. They\u2019re conventional, reasonable, responsible, good, kind people. I\u2019m the crazy. But their love and support made that crazy thrive.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Unlike Adichie, who was raised exclusively in\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/world\/nigeria\" data-link-name=\"auto-linked-tag\" data-component=\"auto-linked-tag\">Nigeria<\/a>, her daughter will be raised in two cultures and subject to slightly diverging social expectations. Already, Adichie says with a laugh, friends and relatives from home are concerned that her mothering is insufficiently stern.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">\u201cA friend was just visiting and she said to me, \u2018Your parenting is not very Nigerian.\u2019 In Nigeria \u2013 and, I think, in many cultures \u2013 you control children. And I feel like, my daughter is 15 months, she doesn\u2019t have a sense of consequences. And I enjoy watching her. So she tears a page of a book? Whatever. She throws my shoes down. So? It\u2019s fun. I love that she\u2019s quite strong-willed.\u201d The joke between Adichie and her husband \u2013 whom, to her intense annoyance, their daughter looks much more like \u2013 is that her character cleaves to the maternal side. \u201cHe says to me, \u2018Well, at least we know where she got her personality from.\u2019 She\u2019s quite fierce.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">In the new book, Adichie\u2019s advice is not only to provide children with alternatives \u2013 to empower boys and girls to understand there is no single way to be \u2013 but also to understand that the only universal in this world is difference. In terms of the evolution of feminism, these are not new lessons, but that is rather Adichie\u2019s point. She is not writing for other feminist writers, and shows some frustration at what she sees as the solipsism of much feminist debate.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">That morning, on the way to see her, I had read a review of a new book by Jessa Crispin, entitled\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/books\/2017\/feb\/15\/why-i-am-not-a-feminist-by-jessa-crispin-review\" data-link-name=\"in body link\">Why I Am Not A Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto<\/a>, a critique of everything that is wrong with feminism today. If one can get over the eye-rolling aspect of books by feminists decrying the feminism of other feminists for degrading the word feminist by being insufficiently feminist, the book does raise questions about where one should be focusing one\u2019s efforts.<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_176471852\" style=\"width: 609px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><a href=\"http:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-02.jpg\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-176471852\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" wp-image-176471852\" src=\"http:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-02-819x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Fashion blogger Chiara Ferragni wears Adichie\u2019s Dior T-shirt during Paris fashion week, January 2017. Photograph: Edward Berthelot\/Getty Images\" width=\"599\" height=\"749\" srcset=\"https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-02-819x1024.jpg 819w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-02-240x300.jpg 240w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-02-920x1150.jpg 920w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-02.jpg 1065w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 599px) 100vw, 599px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-176471852\" class=\"wp-caption-text\"><span style=\"font-size: 10pt; color: #000000;\"><strong>Fashion blogger Chiara Ferragni wears Adichie\u2019s Dior T-shirt during Paris fashion week, January 2017. Photograph: Edward Berthelot\/Getty Images<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">The proposition is that feminism has become so mainstream as to be an empty marketing tool, a mere slogan on a bag or a T-shirt. Without being named, Adichie is implicated in this critique, given that last year she collaborated with Christian Dior on\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/fashion\/2017\/jan\/24\/this-is-what-a-feminist-t-shirt-looks-like\" data-link-name=\"in body link\">a T-shirt bearing the line We Should All Be Feminists<\/a>; depending on one\u2019s view, this is either a perfect example of pointless sloganeering or a brilliant piece of preaching to the unconverted.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">\u201cI\u2019m already irritated,\u201d Adichie says. \u201cThis idea of feminism as a party to which only a select few people get to come: this is why so many women, particularly women of colour, feel alienated from mainstream western academic feminism. Because, don\u2019t we want it to be mainstream? For me, feminism is a movement for which the end goal is to make itself no longer needed. I think academic feminism is interesting in that it can give a language to things, but I\u2019m not terribly interested in debating terms. I want people\u2019s marriages to change for the better. I want women to walk into job interviews and be treated the same way as somebody who has a penis.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Still, one can see a theoretical obscenity about the Dior collaboration: the words of a movement that should be concerned with helping low-income women, used to promote and make money for a wealthy company. On the other hand: what is the damage?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">\u201cYes: what\u2019s the damage?\u201d Adichie says. \u201cI would even argue about the \u2018theoretically obscene\u2019. There\u2019s a kind of self-righteousness to the ultra-left that is hard for me to stomach. Its approach to poverty can sometimes border on condescension. I often think that people who write a lot about poverty need to go and spend more time with poor people. I think about Nigerian women who can hardly afford anything but who love fashion. They have no money, but they work it.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<aside class=\"element element-pullquote element--supporting\">\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"pullquote-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>Feminism is not that hot. I can tell you I would sell more books in Nigeria if I said I\u2019m no longer a feminist<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/aside>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Adichie mentions a TV soap opera that used to run in Nigeria called The Rich Also Cry, \u201ca terrible drama series\u201d, she says, \u201cthat was very popular. But sometimes I think about that title. So, the creative director of Christian Dior is obviously a woman of some privilege. But does it then mean that she doesn\u2019t have gender-based problems in her life? Because she does. Does it mean she doesn\u2019t have this magnificent rage about gender injustice? Because she does. Wanting to use that slogan \u2013 was it going to make the world a better place? No. But I think there\u2019s a level of consciousness-raising and a level of subversion that I like.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">She doesn\u2019t believe it was a cynical marketing ploy? \u201cNo. Sorry.\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/world\/feminism\" data-link-name=\"auto-linked-tag\" data-component=\"auto-linked-tag\">Feminism<\/a>\u00a0is not that hot. I can tell you I would sell more books in Nigeria if I stopped and said I\u2019m no longer a feminist. I would have a stronger following, I would make more money. So when people say, \u2018Oh, feminism\u2019s a marketing ploy\u2019, it makes me laugh.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">The bigger issue here is one of range. Adichie\u2019s irritation with aspects of what she thinks of as \u201cprofessional feminism\u201d is that it runs counter to her ideas as a writer: that people contain multitudes. She is a brilliant novelist and a serious thinker, and she is also someone who makes no apology for her own trivial interests. \u201cLife doesn\u2019t always follow ideology,\u201d she says. \u201cYou might believe in certain things and life gets in and things just become messy. You know? I think that\u2019s the space that fiction, and having a bit more of an imaginative approach, makes. And that the feminist speaking circuit doesn\u2019t really make room for.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">There is much in the new book about double standards, including those governing the images of motherhood and fatherhood. \u201cI think we need to stop giving men cookies for doing what they should do,\u201d she says, and goes on to explain that her husband, who needs less sleep than her, tends to get up in the night to tend to the baby. \u201cOn the one hand, I realise that my husband is unusual; on the other, I feel resentful when he\u2019s overpraised by my family and friends. He\u2019s like Jesus.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">He probably senses she\u2019s about to go off the deep end, I suggest, and Adichie smiles to acknowledge how impossible she is. \u201cI did all the physical work to produce her! There\u2019s something fundamentally wrong with the way we\u2019ve constructed what it means to be female in the world.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_176471853\" style=\"width: 610px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><a href=\"http:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-03.jpg\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-176471853\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" wp-image-176471853\" src=\"http:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-03-819x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Photograph: Stephen Voss for the Guardian\" width=\"600\" height=\"750\" srcset=\"https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-03-819x1024.jpg 819w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-03-240x300.jpg 240w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-03-920x1150.jpg 920w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-03.jpg 1065w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-176471853\" class=\"wp-caption-text\"><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 10pt;\"><strong>Photograph: Stephen Voss for the Guardian<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This is something she writes about in a lovely passage of the new book about hair. As a child, Adichie and her sisters and every other girl she knew were routinely tortured with a metal comb to subdue their hair, something her brothers were spared. \u201cI\u2019m glad I wrote that,\u201d Adichie says. \u201cWe had just come back from Lagos and my sister, God bless her, had already had a talk with me about my daughter\u2019s hair. She said, \u2018You need to do something about it.\u2019 With my family, there\u2019s an eye-roll and a here-we-go-again with her, and she said to me, \u2018Do you want me to send you a set of combs?\u2019 And I was like, \u2018No, thank you.\u2019 And I know it\u2019s going to keep happening. But, no, I\u2019m not going to conform in that way. I\u2019m not going to have my child go through pain because society expects a certain neatness. It happened to me, it\u2019s not going to happen to her. And I\u2019m ready to have all the battles I need to have.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">The original letter on which Dear Ijeawele is based has been shared on Facebook, and while Adichie was in Lagos, a woman who\u2019d read it approached her in a shop and said, \u201c\u2018Here\u2019s my daughter, look at her hair.\u2019 She had very loose cornrows that were not neat according to Nigerians. And she said, \u2018You inspired that. My daughter is happier, I\u2019m happier.\u2019 And do you know, it was the highlight of my month.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This is not just a question of image. It is also about time.\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/lifeandstyle\/women\" data-link-name=\"auto-linked-tag\" data-component=\"auto-linked-tag\">Women<\/a>\u00a0have less time than men, in almost every arena, because their responsibilities to look or act a certain way are more onerous.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">It is one of Adichie\u2019s bugbears that as someone who loves fashion, she is by default not taken seriously. When Boots approached her to be the face of its No7 makeup range, she said yes, because she thought it might be fun; in the end, she says, it became vaguely alarming. \u201cI have no regrets, but you wake up one day and think, what the hell have I done? There were too many of these pictures everywhere.\u201d Her point, however, is that \u201cit\u2019s not that I\u2019m a feminist and made a strategic choice to speak about makeup and fashion. It\u2019s that I was raised by Grace Adichie in a culture in which you care about how you look. It\u2019s a part of me I once hid, because I felt that I had to to be serious. Now, I\u2019m just being who I am.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<aside class=\"element element-pullquote element--supporting\">\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"pullquote-paragraph\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>I don&#8217;t object to Donald Trump because he is a conservative. My objection is to chaos<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/aside>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Recently, Adichie\u2019s identity has been tested in new ways. I wonder if she is less affected by President Trump than an American, on the basis that she is less invested in the American story. Quite the opposite, she says. \u201cBecause there\u2019s a part of me that needs a country I can think of as being one that largely works. Which is not a luxury that Nigeria can have.\u201d She laughs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">\u201cSomeone said to me, \u2018Now that this is happening in the US, do you think of moving back to Nigeria?\u2019 And I thought, no, because it\u2019s not any better there. I admire America. I don\u2019t think of myself as American \u2013 I\u2019m not. So it\u2019s not mine. But I admire it, and so there\u2019s a sense that this thing I built in my head, it\u2019s been destroyed.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">There is also, she says, something familiar about it all. \u201cAmerican democracy has never been tested. You might have disagreed ideologically with George W Bush, but he still kind of followed the rules. Here, it feels like Nigeria. It really does. It\u2019s that feeling of political uncertainty that I\u2019m very familiar with, but not a feeling I like. It\u2019s ugly. But even worse, because America is so powerful, and so much at the centre of the world, these things have consequences for everyone. Nigeria doesn\u2019t have that kind of reach, so our problems remain our problems.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">In January, Adichie and her husband joined the Women\u2019s March in DC. \u201cIt was fleeting, and symbolic,\u201d she says, \u201cbut it gave me the smallest slice of hope. There are all of these people who seem to realise that America has changed by electing an unhinged person. On the other hand, there\u2019s a part of me that\u2019s very sceptical of too much sentimentality. I hope it translates into people organising and going out to vote.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Long before talk about piercing the filter bubble, Adichie instinctively subscribed to rightwing blogs and newsletters. She was an early watcher of\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/media\/fox-news\" data-link-name=\"in body link\">Fox News<\/a>, until it became \u201ctoo unhinged and ridiculous\u201d. But she has carried on, because \u201cI\u2019m interested in ideological concerns and how people differ, and how we should build a society. What\u2019s a welfare state? People who have less, are we responsible for them? I think we are. And I think I can make a selfish case, which is apparently what appeals to people on the right. People on the left say we should do it because we should be kind. And people on the right think, \u2018Excuse me?\u2019 But if you say to them, \u2018If these people don\u2019t get healthcare, they will go to the ER and your tax dollars will pay for it\u2019, suddenly they sit up.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_176471854\" style=\"width: 610px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><a href=\"http:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-04.jpg\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-176471854\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" wp-image-176471854\" src=\"http:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-04-819x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Adichie with her husband, Ivara Esege. Photograph: DDAA\/ZOB\/Daniel Deme\/WENN\" width=\"600\" height=\"750\" srcset=\"https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-04-819x1024.jpg 819w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-04-240x300.jpg 240w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-04-920x1150.jpg 920w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-04.jpg 1065w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-176471854\" class=\"wp-caption-text\"><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 10pt;\"><strong>Adichie with her husband, Ivara Esege. Photograph: DDAA\/ZOB\/Daniel Deme\/WENN<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">As a result of her reading, \u201crightwing ideology is not something I think is evil\u201d, she says. \u201cSome. A bit. But, in general, I don\u2019t. I have friends who are good, kind people who are on the right. But\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/us-news\/donaldtrump\" data-link-name=\"auto-linked-tag\" data-component=\"auto-linked-tag\">Donald Trump<\/a>\u00a0is an exception. It\u2019s not an objection to a conservative, because I don\u2019t even think he\u2019s a conservative. My objection is an objection to chaos. Each time I turn on the news, I\u2019m holding my breath.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Trump\u2019s erosion of language is one of the most frightening things about him, but even progressives, Adichie says, can be sloppy on this front. In response to her new book, a reporter emailed her the question: \u201cWhy not humanism?\u201d (instead of feminism). To which, she says, \u201cI thought, what part of the fucking book did this person not read?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">It\u2019s like the people who go around saying All Lives Matter, I say, in response to the Black Lives Matter movement. \u201cRight, which I find deeply offensive and very dishonest. Because we have to name something in order to fix it, which is why I insist on the word feminist or feminism.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This, she says, in spite of the fact that many of her friends, particularly black women, \u201cresist that word, because the history of feminism has been very white and has assumed \u2018women\u2019 meant \u2018white women\u2019. Political discussion in this country still does that. They\u2019ll say, \u2018Women voted for&#8230;\u2019 and then, \u2018Black people voted for&#8230;\u2019 And I think: I\u2019m black and a woman, so where do I fit in here?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">As a result, \u201cMany of my friends who are not white will say, \u2018I\u2019m an intersectional feminist\u2019, or \u2018I\u2019m a womanist\u2019. And I have trouble with that word, because it has undertones of femininity as this mystical goddess-mother thing, which makes me uncomfortable. So we need a word. And my hope is we use \u2018feminism\u2019 often enough that it starts to lose all the stigma and becomes this inclusive, diverse thing.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This is her goal and her defence, although she still doesn\u2019t see why she needs one. Her understanding of feminism is intertwined with her understanding that we all want to be more than one thing. And anyway, she repeats, \u201cCan people please stop telling me that feminism is hot? Because it\u2019s not.\u201d Adichie looks magnificently annoyed. \u201cHonestly.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 style=\"padding-left: 60px;\"><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 24pt;\">\u2018Beware feminism lite\u2019: <\/span><\/h2>\n<h2 style=\"padding-left: 60px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><strong>an extract from Chimamanda<br \/>\nNgozi Adichie\u2019s\u00a0<\/strong><strong>letter-turned-book,<br \/>\nDear Ijeawele<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Be a full person. Motherhood is a glorious gift, but do not define yourself solely by it. You don\u2019t even have to love your job; you can merely love the confidence and self-fulfilment that come with doing and earning. Please reject the idea that motherhood and work are mutually exclusive. Our mothers worked full-time while we were growing up, and we turned out well \u2013 at least you did; the jury is still out on me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">In these coming weeks of early motherhood, be kind to yourself. Ask for help. Expect to be helped. There is no such thing as a Superwoman. Parenting is about practice \u2013 and love.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Give yourself room to fail. A new mother does not necessarily know how to calm a crying baby. Read books, look things up on the internet, ask older parents, or just use trial and error. But, above all, take time for yourself. Nurture your own needs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">I have no interest in the debate about women \u201cdoing it all\u201d, because it is a debate that assumes that caregiving and domestic work are singularly female domains, an idea that I strongly reject. Domestic work and caregiving should be gender-neutral, and we should be asking not whether a woman can \u201cdo it all\u201d, but how best to support parents in their dual duties at work and at home.<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_176471856\" style=\"width: 610px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><a href=\"http:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-05.jpg\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-176471856\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" wp-image-176471856\" src=\"http:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-05-819x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Photograph: Stephen Voss for the Guardian\" width=\"600\" height=\"750\" srcset=\"https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-05-819x1024.jpg 819w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-05-240x300.jpg 240w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-05-920x1150.jpg 920w, https:\/\/kalamu.com\/neogriot\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/chimamanda-05.jpg 1065w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-176471856\" class=\"wp-caption-text\"><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 10pt;\"><strong>Photograph: Stephen Voss for the Guardian<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Beware the danger of what I call Feminism Lite; the idea of conditional female equality. Being a feminist is like being pregnant. You either are or you are not. You either believe in the full equality of men and women, or you do not.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Teach your daughter to question language. A friend of mine says she will never call her daughter \u201cprincess\u201d. The word is loaded with assumptions, of a girl\u2019s delicacy, of the prince who will come to save her. This friend prefers \u201cangel\u201d and \u201cstar\u201d. So decide the things you will not say to your child. You know that Igbo joke, used to tease girls who are being childish \u2013 \u201cWhat are you doing? Don\u2019t you know you are old enough to find a husband?\u201d I used to say that often. But now I choose not to. I say, \u201cYou are old enough to find a job.\u201d Because I do not believe that marriage is something we should teach young girls to aspire to.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Try not to use words like \u201cmisogyny\u201d and \u201cpatriarchy\u201d. We feminists can sometimes be too jargony. Teach her that if you criticise X in women but do not criticise X in men, you do not have a problem with X, you have a problem with women. For X please insert words like anger, ambition, loudness, stubbornness, coldness, ruthlessness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Do you remember how we laughed and laughed at an atrociously written piece about me some years ago? The writer had accused me of being \u201cangry\u201d, as though \u201cbeing angry\u201d were something to be ashamed of. Of course I am angry. I am angry about racism. I am angry about sexism. But I recently came to the realisation that I am angrier about sexism than I am about racism. Because in my anger about sexism, I often feel lonely. Because I love, and live among, many people who easily acknowledge race injustice but not gender injustice.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Teach your daughter to question men who can have empathy for women only if they see them as relational rather than as individual equal humans. Men who, when discussing rape, will say something like, \u201cIf it were my daughter or wife or sister.\u201d Yet such men do not need to imagine a male victim of crime as a brother or son in order to feel empathy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Teach her, too, to question the idea of women as a special species. I once heard an American politician, in his bid to show his support for women, speak of how women should be \u201crevered\u201d and \u201cchampioned\u201d \u2013 a sentiment that is all too common. Tell her that women don\u2019t need to be championed and revered; they just need to be treated as equal human beings.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 12pt;\"><span class=\"bullet\">\u2022<\/span>\u00a0This is a condensed and edited extract from Dear Ijeawele, Or A Feminist Manifesto In Fifteen Suggestions, by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, published on Tuesday by Fourth Estate at \u00a310. To order a copy for \u00a38.50,\u00a0<a class=\"u-underline\" href=\"https:\/\/bookshop.theguardian.com\/dear-ijeawele-or-a-feminist-manifesto-in-fifteen-suggestion.html?utm_source=editoriallink&amp;utm_medium=merch&amp;utm_campaign=article\" data-link-name=\"in body link\">go to bookshop.theguardian.com<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&gt;via: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/books\/2017\/mar\/04\/chimamanda-ngozi-adichie-stop-telling-me-feminism-hot?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other\" target=\"_blank\">https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/books\/2017\/mar\/04\/chimamanda-ngozi-adichie-stop-telling-me-feminism-hot?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other<\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: &#8216;Can people please stop telling me feminism is hot?&#8217; The novelist has been accused of making equality mainstream: isn\u2019t that the point? 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